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djairsurfer:

pasteldaemon:

djairsurfer replied to your post:Okay so

why would u do that though u didn’t do anything wrong?? it’s people thinking everything is meant in a negative way as always and u shouldn’t cater to them because people will see u let them push u around until u cant utter a single word

It’s not like I have any intention to take every case of offense at face value, because you’ll never please everyone/some people will always find something. If I feel the need to put my foot down, I will.

But at the same time, just because my actions were unintentional or done without awareness it doesn’t absolve me of responsibility once it’s brought up, yeah? Like, it’s how a person reacts at that point that actually matters [and I kinda’ fluffed it initially but I think we got there in the end?]

Like, it might seem insignificant to you, in which case, since it’s clearly important to other people, is there a good reason not to oblige? I certainly can’t think of one.

What those people are saying is “you shouldn’t use this word because someone in bum fuck nowhere uses it in a negative manner and so it’s automatically a slur everywhere” which is fucking ridiculous because never have I heard the word trap be used as a derogatory term towards femboys.

plus the person who complained obviously didn’t know what they were talking about since they first called your character a dickgirl, and then said trap was harmful to trans people?? Like to my knowledge being androgynous doesn’t automatically make u trans.

When someone’s making chickens out of feathers, yes. You shouldn’t water yourself down just because some asshole on the other side of the planet told you to. What they’re making you do is not thinking “oh that word is offensive i shouldn’t use it” but “oh i shouldn’t use this word because i might offend this one person who has their head so far up their ass they’re starting to choke”

Besides, just because someone says a word might be offensive doesn’t mean it is. I (and I’m probably not the only one) who has never thought of trap or genderbend or whatever the fuck as something offensive. Just because the words might have negative or derogatory roots when they first were used in fucking 1800 or whatever doesn’t mean they are today. People need to learn to not take things so fucking literally, 

hi i’ve known multiple trans people who are bothered by “trap”

it doesn’t bother me, personally, but neither do most slurs, whether they apply to me or not. but i still don’t make a habit of using them freely around an unknown audience, because i’m dimly aware that there are people in the world besides me. wow. amazing.

there are trans people who are fine with “trap”, trans people who actively identify as “trap”, trans people who use “trap” to describe a body type they find appealing, and trans people for whom “trap” is a reminder that they are not infrequently murdered for their crime of “tricking” a straight man — a trope the word quite literally reinforces.

so sure, it depends on your audience. but maybe if your audience speaks up and asks you not to use a slur because it’s bothersome, it would be common fucking decency to respect that. maybe other people’s comfort can take priority over your use of one word.

and hey, maybe you’d prefer to keep using the word for whatever reason. that happens sometimes, and this is a fuzzy case. but when that happens maybe you could just leave it at “sorry i’d rather keep using it” instead of being a colossal jackass and tearing someone to shreds for daring to be offended by a slur against them.