chocolatemasochist asked:The reason everyone is calling you immature is that the way you're wording your responses makes you sound like you're throwing a tantrum - I'm not against you! You're entirely in the right! But if I didn't already know you were right, and was some ignorant youtube commenter, you'd be making it REALLY hard to believe you, even with the video guy agreeing. Your actions are making you into a target for hatred, and even though you have every right to be angry, it's only making it worse.
glitchedpuppet answered:I really hope you don’t hate me for saying that, but I keep seeing rage on my dash, and I just want everyone to cool down. And I certainly can’t tell people from Youtube to calm down, so I’m just… hoping you’ll be okay.
oh, shit, sorry! I didn’t realize a who bunch of people came to you with the same asks >o> ignore me
Sorry for posting these in advance, but I felt it important to reply to this one specifically. Or rather, I’m letting Eevee reply because I’m starting to lose the energy to retype the same thing, you know?
“you say "tantrum” to describe… what? that she’s annoyed that someone wronged her and said so? that she’s responding firmly to jackassery?
you’ve fallen for this ridiculous internet trick where whoever appears to care less about a situation “wins”. and that is complete bullshit. it contorts every situation into a game of who can pretend to be more of an emotionless robot, and it ultimately puts sociopaths at the top of the social totem pole.
or to put it another way: do you really want to participate in a society where youtube commenters make the rules?”
cinemagic:
wtf?
i’m not using it as a placeholder; i never use “sociopath” as a placeholder. i’m talking about people who have no empthy for others rising to the top and the most extreme form of that is sociopathy
i don’t care that the psych community doesn’t call it that; i’m going to use actual words everyone generally understands rather than “person with anti-social personality disorder”
i can feel a bulging vein of annoyance forming on my temple from the use of “ableist” here because you know what, when the DSM describes something as
a pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others
then yeah most likely someone who has been professionally diagnosed as fitting that pattern is not going to be a joyous person to have in my life.
it totally sucks that mental illness is stigmatized, but what you seem to be proposing is to avoid stigmatizing people who are actively toxic but who have been given a name for their toxicity. well protip, some mental illnesses actually genuinely do suck to be around.
i’ve met several people i armchair-suspected to be sociopathic. they all acted the same way, smarming up to people who liked them (often for their artistic output) but doing the absolute most cutting and biting things they could imagine to everyone else. which in most cases was me. and their fans fucking raced to excuse or explain away each individual incident, because they knew exactly what the fuck they were doing, dropping innocuous comments that aimed square at something tender and personal. so i got to put up with that while lots of mutual friends continued to pat their asses. it’s a fucking nightmare.
which brings us full circle back to the subtext of your original question: everyone should be a quiet passive punching bag except the person doing the punching. fuck that.