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kecrambles:

omtaydover said: The question didnt seem all that messed up. Could have been answered a been more passively.

Are you even kidding me? I answered this extremely passively compared to how agitated it made me that someone would ask a question like this. The question may not have been in an aggressive tone, but it was REALLY a messed up question to be asking. Do you even have any idea how many times I’ve heard through the years that if a woman has a sex drive, something must be wrong? That something is fucked up with *her*? No one ever asks things like this about men, or to do with men and a sex drive. I’ve never heard anyone do it, in any case.

Reread my reply and tell me if that’s aggressive at all. You’d be wrong if you said it was. Telling someone their behavior is problematic (and as an aside contributes to a sexist view that needs to be stomped out) should not be done super passively. It was already toned down a lot because this person asks a lot of questions and I didn’t think they meant offense, even if it was offensive.

I’m really, really put off by your reply saying it could have been answered more passively. No, it shouldn’t have. I could have been more assertive and it would have been absolutely fine still. I’m really tired of people associating women liking sex with ~some sort of problem~ and I think I stated it just fine while not specifically making the person who asked the question feel like they were being attacked.

All in all I’m ultra peeved that you think the message was too aggressive when it was already super cut back from what I REALLY wanted to say.

Please don’t even bother replying to my posts if this is what you’re bringing to the table. If someone says something offensive, I don’t care if their feelings get hurt when I tell them it’s offensive. I personally found the question offensive, even if I didn’t think the person meant to do that. That is why I was polite in my reply. I’m seething that you think even that reply isn’t good enough, as if I have to become a docile little lady to fucking tell someone “hey what you just said actually upset me personally because I actually have dealt with dozens of people thinking something is wrong with me because I like sex”.

Fuck off.

i like how, yet again, the original question turned out to be offensive, but it’s mel who needs to be nicer

smarm strikes again