batbluebirdworld asked:Seeing you mention your opinion on the whole pk drama, what's your opinion on lexyeevee's rebuttal of pengo's callout?
ponett answered:i don’t care about the rebuttals. i also didn’t read most of the original callout post. because of this, i tried to write it off as “drama i didn’t want to get involved with” until recently. but then i saw this post that cleared a lot of things up for me. the final nail in the coffin, though, was when i took a closer look at the things they said recently. in their incredibly long comic about them allegedly NOT being an abuser, pk proved that they are, in fact, abusive. they displayed classic abuse tactics i’ve seen a million times such as
belittling the people who accuse them of abuse:
and, my personal favorite, saying they almost committed suicide to get people to stop criticizing them:
that should be a HUGE RED FLAG, but if that isn’t enough for you, the biggest red flag of all is this:
like, oh, how convenient! pk was only accused of EMOTIONAL abuse, so that means that, according to pk’s rules, telling everyone about it was inherently evil regardless of whether or not the callout was true!! everybody who’s a victim of emotional abuse should just work things out privately!!!! they’re also using this to shift the responsibility onto their ex (another abuse tactic) for not trying harder to “resolve things.” because abusers are SO easy to reason with
these are all the typical examples of abuser behaviors. there’s nothing new about the way they act, the only difference is that they’re a popular artist
so to summarize this post
you freely admit you don’t care what either the accused or the victim have to say for themselves, but you’re gonna form and broadcast your baseless opinion anyway
you criticize someone’s depiction of a post that you just said you didn’t read, based entirely on the assumption that the post depicts abuse, which you can’t know if you didn’t read it
you think it’s gaslighting when someone has hard evidence that their version of events is correct — meanwhile you and many others are telling pk over and over that she is abusive when she is not but that’s totally different, for some reason
you think it’s somehow unreasonable for someone to feel suicidal when their friends and thousands of strangers turn on them over false accusations, and call it a huge red flag that someone would admit to contemplating suicide
and you think she is shifting responsibility onto pengo for trying hard to resolve things, even though they had a very long conversation at the end of their relationship during which things seemingly were resolved, and then pengo apparently blocked her forever, which you would know if you had read the rebuttal and weren’t talking entirely out your ass
you are trivializing suicide, helping repeat a lie, pushing all the blame onto one person and basing your harsh opinion of them on shit you completely made up
wow, this sounds familiar. it actually fits your own definition of “typical examples of abuser behaviors”! i suppose you’ll now ignore me or handwave me away, because as you know, abusers are really difficult to reason with.