(2/3) When I read about your situation, while I clearly felt bad for PK, I also felt rather bad for Pend. I honestly believe he is sure the events he recalled is correct, which is why it’s so troublesome he didn’t have access to logs. It honestly was something that could’ve been easily fixed if he actually expressed himself.  I suppose from previous abuse it was something he was fearful of (especially things like “What if I say this is too much work?”), which is something I completely

(3/3) understand, but it makes it difficult for relationships.

the human memory is actually pretty damn terrible to start with.  it’s murky in the first place, and then we naturally fill in gaps when we recall anything, which makes it extremely easy to tilt one way or another based on how you feel now.  my memory of events in my life is atrociously bad and i hate it.

i don’t know

they were highly incompatible, it was a tragedy all around

which would be fine except now he is claiming his regrets as manipulation on her part

i don’t know, a great deal of his post isn’t even explaining why she’s manipulative or abusive, it’s about weird petty stuff like why he was totally right about rearranging the buttons on her table

i felt bad for him at the time, i felt bad for him when the callout came out, but i’m having a real hard time now, after watching this escalate yet again, and knowing that this is what he wanted (because he said as much in the post).  i may not be good enough a person to stretch my sympathy this far