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buttcheek2:

purplekecleon:

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I don’t feel comfortable supporting this comic 100%. While I do think people jump to quickly to demonize certain posts and users, I don’t trust this particular author, because they said their ex was absurd for suddenly deciding in retrospect that their relationship was abusive. It’s actually very common to not realize a relationship is abusive until a while after it’s over.

i don’t remember exactly when or where this was said, but have you considered she was saying it was absurd to decide that their relationship, specifically, was abusive

i read through pages upon pages of their conversations (and glanced over them again this week because of the resurgence of this crapstorm) and over and over, she would ask if everything was alright and he would reassure her. they both went out of their way to do things for each other.

i don’t know what of their interactions could possibly be construed as abusive on her part. i don’t. i still don’t. not a single person accusing her of abuse can actually give me an example.

They even said they “accidentally let abuse happen.” That doesn’t look good to me.

this sounds like it’s referring to mike? she is responsible for what the people on her team did, but it seems weird to blame her for being fooled by someone else

I’m not gonna be like this person is trash you’re a bad person for liking them, which I agree is p shitty esp because I don’t know the whole story, but, I don’t feel comfortable hearing their critique of call out culture when they have been accused of being an abuser and used abuse apologist/victim blaming language in their post.

here is the whole story

it seems to me that someone falsely accused of being an abuser is the perfect candidate for critiquing callout culture? who else would be so familiar with its issues

i don’t know what language you’re referring to but i’m sure she would be interested in specific feedback

it’s not popular to admit that sometimes people lie and sometimes mental illness affects recall, if those are the problem, but these are things that do happen occasionally and we need to be able to deal with them with a little more grace and nuance