Anonymous asked:

I really think that better terminology needs to be had because the term "Trap" used as it is, it very much demeaning to trans women as a whole. While you may find it amusing it is harmful to people. There has to be something better to use.

r4drawings answered:

Just because “I” find it amusing doesn’t mean I don’t understand how heavy and upsetting it can be to certain people. As previously stated, I don’t mean to offend anyone. 

pasteldaemon:

r4drawings:

pasteldaemon said: ‘I don’t mean to offend’ doesn’t carry much weight if you understand it can be offensive and opt to keep using it, tbh.

Yes, well the reality of it is that I’m bound to step on someone’s toes no matter how understanding, or nice, or equality minded I try to be. So regardless of how you want to take it, My stance is that I don’t mean to offend anyone. 

That’s grand, but it’s a stance that doesn’t mean anything if you don’t actually act to back it up, and making an effort, even if you can’t please everyone, is still miles better than words without any action behind ‘em.Instead it just reads less as not wanting to offend and more like ‘I don’t wanna have to deal with offended people’ Like….it’s really easy to avoid in this case but the way you’re putting things totally sounds like you have no intention to change what you’re doing, yo.

people step on each other’s toes, it happens

like, people literally step on other people’s toes sometimes

and that’s ok, everyone knows it happens and will give you the benefit of the doubt… until they see your response

so at this critical juncture, you have two options

  1. “oh! my bad, sorry, are you alright?”
  2. “whatever, toes get stepped on no matter what i do, i didn’t mean to do it regardless of how you feel about it now. also it’s pretty funny to me”

i don’t think anyone has ever stepped on my toes and then said #2. yet when the situation is not so literal, that’s exactly what a lot of people do.

somehow when the victim or their injury is not visible, it becomes all about you and how you feel and how awful it is for you that people look hurt when you step on their toes and no matter what you do it still happens so what’s even the point right??

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    people step on each other’s toes, it happens like, people literally step on other people’s toes sometimes and that’s ok,...
  3. pasteldaemon said: ‘I don’t mean to offend’ doesn’t carry much weight if you understand it can be offensive and opt to keep using it, tbh.
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