fuzzy post-it

reminder that labels are just loose descriptions, not hard requirements

sometimes i see people struggling with the question of whether they’re bi or gay or asexual and like

why should it matter what you call yourself

would that really change how you feel

labels are supposed to be shorthand

they shouldn’t condemn you to whatever fixed set of behaviors you think they mean

you can call yourself gay and still find people of the opposite gender attractive

you can call yourself asexual and still have sex once in a while

you can do and feel whatever you want

and you don’t owe anyone an explanation