I think you misunderstood me? I do not think PK is...

Oct 29 2014

Anonymous asked:

I think you misunderstood me? I do not think PK is the bad one I think "they" need to learn how to deal publicly with situations like this. Thats all, with the way they respond it would be very easy for someone to seriously tarnish their reputation (even though they are IN THE RIGHT). And frankly Pengo's post was just plain sad, it never made pk seem abusive to a reasonable minded person. It just seemed like two people who clearly did know how to communicate/respect each others feelings. And it

makes pengo look worse since he was the only one who actually begged people not to support her or have anything at all to do with her. they might have been upset but they never set out to hurt him at all. So please try to understand WHY I am saying they need to learn how to deal. Its so no one else can try to drag her name and hard work through the mud over misunderstandings like this. Because some will not believe just because of how you all initially responded.

haha, i actually got another anon ask along the same lines between these two parts.

on the one hand, sure, tone greatly affects how people interpret a message. sometimes more than the message itself.

but a few things bother me there. like, i’m a loudmouthed jackass a lot of the time, and i fairly rarely get any of this “you’re a jerk because you use strong language” attitude. i don’t have nearly mel’s audience, sure, but i have a few thousand twitter followers, and that one php post i wrote got tends of thousand of reads. (it earned a lot of nasty comments, but none of them criticized my tone.)

the obvious difference is, people on twitter follow me because they like that i’m a loudmouthed jackass, whereas people follow mel because they like her art. then they discover she says things and… i don’t know. feel cheated out of something, maybe? buyer’s remorse?

if it were as simple as not liking the stuff she says, then people could just unfollow her. but she leaves such a strong impression that some people decide she is a bona fide Bad Person. if someone is polite but cruel to her, and she is clearly angry about it, then there will still be a good few fingers pointed at her.

she could just only be polite, or even publicly post nothing but art. but isn’t that validating this behavior, letting the mob decide how she should behave? that’s not cool. she very strongly values saying what she’s thinking, and it eats at her if she can’t. she put her AX rant on her personal blog, separate from her art, and people are still criticizing her for it right now. she put her vent post on a password-protected blog, and that still bit her too.

pretending to be polite certainly works, and it’s a useful thing to know. but i don’t think it’s good that people work this way, i don’t think we should encourage each other to continue to work that way, and i don’t think it’s at all fair to expect people to talk like press releases 100% of the time.